Teekwa Scarborough, a native of The Bronx, New York, where hip hop and break dancing were born, wasn't influenced by the rapping or spinning on her head, but it was the education which was instilled in her by her parents' upbringings.

She graduated at the top of her class (Kuma Laude) from Monroe College in 2008, with a BA in Business Administration-Computer Information. She is the eldest of her 3 siblings and is a single mom, with 2 children and 2 grandchildren.

As you have gotten to know a little about me during the last 5 series of ?Why I Was Born?, I will continue to share with you more of my ?Becoming?, the journey which is to inspire any women who are single, single with children, Christian women, in relationships, working towards a career or starting a business. I have a purpose in life and it is not to keep to myself, it is to share, inspire and impact lives around me. I never ever thought that I would be here writing a blog! I used to hate writing and used to always say I couldn?t write. I?m still not a fan of it, but if you don?t know God, he will test ya. Be careful of what comes out of your mouth (smile). God has his plan for my life and if you are reading this blog now, it is not by accident. I believe God orders our footsteps, and even when we do not make the right choices, he puts us back on the path he has planned for us.

When I surrender it all (see last blog post)

It was the beginning of my new life. I felt free, I felt like I was released from something that was holding me back on my purpose in life. It was ironic that a friend of mine was going through almost the same situation of a breakup. I was at a point during that time that I was not looking back, and my friend was not at that place. God allowed me to see how I was at that time; I saw myself in her and it was an eye-opener to what God was showing me all along. This was the beginning of figuring out what was my purpose. I used to ask God, ?What am I supposed to do? I don?t know what my purpose in life is.? I kept thinking of things that I could do to help others. At one point, I thought I wanted to open up a center for our boys on the street because of the challenges I had had with my oldest son. Then I wanted to have something to help young teenage girls with children on how to love themselves and not idolize a man; so many things came into my head. I just did not know what to do. I kept asking God, ?What am I supposed to do? You are not talking to me.? After asking and seeking, the answer had been staring me in the face the whole time. As mentioned in my blog series 4, What is my purpose? I joined a study group for a 42-day journey on the book ?Purpose Driven Life: What On Earth Am I Here For? by Rick Warren, to help me on finding my purpose. After doing the study group a few times, God has revealed multiple things to me. I have never been married, never lived with a man, but am instead a single mom striving to make her life and the life of her children better. Single?s ministry kept pushing in my spirit and I was pushed to lead a single?s ministry from my pastor, at that time. ?How can I lead a ministry??, I thought. I was not ready, I was still going through things myself at the time. I still needed to figure things out, but I thought, ?I am an expert at being single (laughing). I have a purpose of administration.? Now, let?s chat about this. God is hilarious! When I started college while pregnant with my first babies, I had no idea what I wanted to do. So, I choose secretarial studies by default. As I started to take a course on this, I found out that it was not for me. Then I changed to accountancy, and after the birth of my twins, I had to put college on hold. I had a few jobs, but nothing that was long-term. When I started to look for positions I could take, administrative assistant jobs were the only option for me at the time. I did not want to work in admin. Well, I am happy to say that I have been an administrative assistant for 20+ years and have loved it. The one thing I tried to stay away from became one of my purposes. I have overcome so many obstacles in my life and have accomplished a lot. God is so funny, he would strategically bring up things in my past when I was to question the journey. I would look up and say, ?Ok Jesus, I get it.? I don?t question anything God has me do. Surrendering is giving up control and letting him lead, and I follow.

Did I idolize this man?

During the time of my long relationship, I did everything to keep my relationship going especially for my youngest son. I think one of the reasons I stayed in the relationship was because I did not want to have to raise another boy by myself again. Just like any woman, I wanted my children to have a balanced life with both the mother and father in a home. I was raised with both of my parents, and I wanted the same for my children. Because of the choices I made in my life, having sex without being married comes with consequences. However, I wanted to make it work. I wanted to be married and raise our child and be happy. I certainly did not include God in this relationship. I was making plans without him. We had a lot of disagreements, we lived in separate homes, but we would go to his house on the weekends or he would stay at my house sometimes. We so-called got engaged and started to look for a house. He wanted to find a house before we got married. Now I can see how he was very controlling because he wanted things his way. If I did not agree, he would make it seem like he was appeasing both parties, but it was always for his benefit. I realize now that he was selfish, but I still stayed. I still wanted to be married. I still wanted the house with all of us in it. Again, God was not included in this relationship. If God is not in it, it is not for me. After the breakup, I realized that I idolized this man/relationship. It was not intentional, but when God is not in it and you focus more on that one thing, then it is called idolizing. My focus was on this relationship and what I wanted to happen. 

Matthew 4:10 Then Jesus said to him, ?Away with you, Satan! For it is written, ?You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.? ?

Exodus 20:3 ?You shall have no other Gods before Me.?

Luke 4:8 And Jesus answered and said to him, ?Get behind Me, Satan! For it is written, ?You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.? ?

Becoming of me ? The Glow

Through the trials and tribulations in life, when you are in a relationship with God, you start the journey of ?Becoming who you are.? After the breakup, I mentioned earlier that I felt a release, it was bondage, sin, fear, and control that were all holding me back from the becoming of Teekwa. The dreams I wanted for myself were not carried out because I held on to something that was keeping me back from my happiness. Usually, we women get depressed, cry every night, watch romance movies and cry, bash men with our friends, or eat sugar to make us feel better. Well, this time it was the total opposite. Everywhere I went, I was told I was glowing. My father said, ?This breakup was great. You are glowing and smiling all the time.? My mindset shifted and went into auto drive. I went full force and officially started my first business by partnering with my brother to start an event planning company called Sophisticated Touch! I also went full force with my single?s ministry; I had my first conference, ?Embracing Your Singleness? in 2018. I was so proud of myself for starting a business and hosted my first successful event. Soon after, I started another business, PowerPro Assistants, a virtual assistant agency. Now I am a Christian business coach, and I help women start their online businesses. I have traveled, attended events, met celebrities such as Master P, Kenya Moore, and Naturi Naughton, to name a few, during my entrepreneur journey. As I started to use social media for my business marketing and started to go live on Facebook, I started to receive so many comments from people I knew or did not know about how I had a glow about me. That glow was the glow of the holy spirit.

As I have grown closer to Jesus and asked him to reveal things to me, I have learned how some things were allowed to bring me to where I am now. I am so happy with where I am now because I have released the control and am allowing God to order my footsteps. In his word, he says his yolk is easy. Matthew 11: 28 ? 30 ?Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.? At one point, I felt it was hard being a Christian, but at that time I made it hard for myself. The word of God is the truth, light, and the way. I recently learned the meaning of my name, Teekwa; I was told it was a name of an Indian river, but now know that in Hebrew, it means hope. My God is amazing.

I still have a long way to go, a lot more growing to do, and I am welcoming the journey. Are you ready to see the becoming of you? Are you tired of being tired and ready to surrender it all? If you answered yes, join our weekly 1PM EST lunchtime prayer calls on Fridays, so we can pray for you. Email us at eysos2018@gmail.com.

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Teekwa Scarborough 

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