Why I Was Born
My Past, Current & Future
Did My Personality Start When I Was Born?
Have you ever wondered why you were born? Growing up, and whilst going through life challenges until I was a teenager, I always asked myself this. At one time, in secret, I asked God to take me from this earth because I thought the things I had gone through were devastating. Yeah, now that I look back on that - I was pretty dramatic. This is why I want to speak about ?Why we were born? from the beginning. This is written in the hope that you can find who you are in life; perhaps you are just beginning your journey from a young adult to adulthood. Sometimes we just have not seen the answers we are seeking. We are all born for a purpose. We were made in the image of God. Genesis 1:27 So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them. Growing up as an extreme introvert, I kept to myself as I grew in a Christian home. I still had no clue. I was just there. In series 1 of Why we were born, I will take you down memory lane in the hope that you will discover why you were born. You will not receive everything you need to know in 4 series, but hopefully, through my eyes, journey, and life experiences, you will start to understand why you were born.
The Good Baby... The beginnings of my personality.
Growing up, I was reticent and shy. Family and friends used to say to my mom, ?something may be wrong with your children.? My mother would always confidently tell people that nothing was wrong with her children. ?They are just quiet, well-behaved, and different.? When I was a baby, my mom said I?d cry for my bottle, then close my eyes while I drank my bottle, giving no eye-to-eye contact, and bond while feeding and sleeping; the same as what most babies usually do, right? Other mothers she knew with a baby had children not quite like me. I was no ordinary baby. I was a baby that did not cry as much; other mothers were not getting sleep during the night, were napping while the baby was sleeping, or getting time to get things done around the house. Whereas my mom had a spotless home, slept through the night, napped only if she wanted to, and had lots of time to herself. She wanted to have fun with her newborn baby. She loved me, but she wanted to hold me, look in my eyes whilst feeding me, and enjoy her baby. I guess my mom tried whatever she could to keep me up because all I wanted to do was sleep, eat, and be left alone (laughing). Up until my teenage years, this did not change. One day, I guess she had enough. She checked on me often to see if I was breathing, shook me softly to see if I moved, and then she plucked my arm! When she told me this as I got older, we laughed. I still get tickled when she tells me this story.
I tell you all this because I believe our story starts from when we are born. We are assigned to our parents. You may be thinking, ?why did God assign me to a parent or parents on drugs??, ?Why did I get assigned to a father that raped me??, ?Why did I get assigned to a parent that did not show me any love??; the list goes on. These are questions to ask God.
I read books about pregnancy and the stages the baby goes through in your womb. What we feed our body, mind, and what we say helps the development of a baby.
The Obedient baby... It was in me.
Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV): Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
My mom was not living a Christian life at this time. However, as a mom, she was raising me in a way she thought she should. My mom did not have a great relationship with her mother. I recently found out that her mother abandoned my grandmother. My mom went through many things, and she did not want the same to happen to me. She was breaking a generational curse in our family without even knowing she was doing so. I made my mother?s life easy as a first-time mom. She gave me all the love I needed; she was strict to a certain extent; she made sure I was safe and accepted my personality during my development as a baby. As I was exploring why I was born, I already started to see how the personality traits you develop make a difference to people?s lives. For example, starting with my mother, during my developmental stages, when she talked, I listened. If I touched something I was not supposed to, she would tell me once. If I tried it again, she gave me a look that meant, ?don?t do it.? I did not want my mommy to be upset; therefore, I listened. At that time in her life, I brought joy and ease to her because she was a single mother trying to make ends meet and take good care of me.
As we go through the series, you will learn about some twists and turns in my life and lessons learned. I believe the personality I developed from a baby until now played a significant role in why I was born. I want to lay down the foundation of how you can answer the question of why you were born. I had to journal to arrive at the answer of why I was born. It took me years to figure it out, but it is what God intended for me. It may not take you years, depending on the direction, journey, or plan God has for your life. For some of us, our childhood memories are buried due to a traumatic experience, our parents? stories, who we were raised by, etc. The point is the life we live tells our story of why we were born. Things in our life do not happen by accident. We may have been standing at a bus stop and prevented someone from getting hit, or we may have walked into someone in the hallway who was about to be raped, and just by you showing up, it scared the person off. You may have been able to stop someone from committing suicide. God places us in situations to serve a purpose at that time and season. I don?t know who you are, what situation you are in, or what part of trying to find yourself you?re in, but the only way you will do this is through Jesus, through daily conversations with him, and journaling. I never thought I would be writing this blog. But why am I? Because it?s part of the journey of why I was born. I originally had no desire to write, but I am now an author, coach, and speaker. I have impacted many lives.
The Slow-to-Warm-Up (referenced here)
My mom was and still is an overprotective lion. She kept a close watch of who was around me or, rather, who she let around me. What mother would not? Because I was quiet and well-behaved, she was careful about the people she?d allow to take care of me. As mentioned in this blog about a baby?s personality or temperament, I was slow to warm up. Some babies are friendly and excited about anyone that comes around. I was not; I was ONLY familiar with my mom. So, of course, if she left me somewhere unfamiliar, I quickly cried, and even after crying, I kept to myself, shy and quiet. It took me a very long time to warm up to other people. Sidenote: my mom would stand by the closed door until I stopped crying (laughing). Because of this personality, I have had meaningful relationships. I bring something to people?s lives and vice versa. We meet people for a reason, season, or lifetime, but most times it is to save, change, learn, or make a difference. As I share this, I know that there are many reasons for my existence and why I am the way I am.
Why were we born?
Today, I want you to start somewhere. Get a notebook, journal, or piece of paper and start discovering why you think you were born. I journal often, and the most common things about me that come up are: Quiet, Introverted, Compassionate, Good listener, Helper, Sweet, Love, Kindness, to name a few. Once I started writing, my reason for living began to become clearer. After you write in your journal, create a list of the most common personality traits you had as a baby and compare them to your personality now. It may have changed over the years, but I know that you still have some of it deep inside of you. You have to rediscover it. What are the common compliments received from family, friends, and coworkers? What have people described your personality as? Compare it to what you think of yourself. How have you made a difference to someone?s life? What impact have you made? I am pretty sure as you do this exercise, you will discover why you were born. Have daily conversations with God; he will talk back to you.
Scriptures to meditate on:
1 Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, dedicated nation, [God's] own purchased, special people, that you may set forth the wonderful deeds and display the virtues and perfections of Him Who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light. [Exodu. 19:5, 6]
Colossians 1:16 For it was in Him that all things were created, in heaven and on earth, things seen and things unseen, whether thrones, dominions, rulers, or authorities; all things were created and exist through Him [by His service, intervention] and in and for Him.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome.
Jeremiah 32:19 Great [are You] in counsel and mighty in deeds, Whose eyes are open to all the ways of the sons of men, to reward or repay each one according to his ways and according to the fruit of his doings.
Proverbs 19:21 Many plans are in a man's mind, but it is the Lord's purpose for him that will stand. [Job 23:13; Psalm 33:10, 11; Isaiah 14:26, 27; 46:10; Acts 5:39;
Hebrew 6:17]
Proverbs 20:5 Counsel in the heart of man is like water in a deep well, but a man of understanding draws it out. [Proverbs 18:4]
Psalms 33:11 The counsel of the Lord stands forever, the thoughts of His heart through all generations.
Roman 8:28 We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to [His] design and purpose.
Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand)
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